THESE ARTICLES WOULD TRY TO PROVIDE A METHOD TO FIND TRUTH IN EASY AND PRACTICAL STEPS, POSSIBLE FOR EVERYONE FOR ONCE TO TRY AND
MAKE TIME TO TRY IT , OVERCOME EXCUSES, DISEASE,LACK OF RESOURCES OR STRENGTH TO OVERCOME SITUATIONS
SO THAT THE EXCUSE OR GUILT, I DIDN'T KNOW HOW COMES IN MIND
"and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free."
Bible says it, Many other religious books, great personalities have said it, even CIA original headquarter says it in latin Veritas vos liberabit, many universities have this latin wordings as their motto, so if you are reading it , that means me as writer and you as reader are asking us the very same question What is truth , and pretty much that sets the question of this article?
What is truth, how to find it or know it , is it one point instance like Gautam Buddha's life or is it a journey.
If you are getting the same curiosity aroused by this question, go on reading it for others, truth will make you free or liberated as they say, so you just need to find the method or technique to find and explore the truth,
After getting it,nobody can give it you because he is already liberated , but sure can tell you the elusive method, so lets try to make it easy to understand.
Some people talk English, some other language, some are able to understand why there are missions to outer world or quantum mechanics, some like my country are illiterate to read anything, some are slow learners, specially abled, some are nice people who cry at movies, some people are trying to create fear through terrorism, so basically there is wide variety of people.
So, as many persons are there , it just adds to all the confusion on the mindset of everyone, and also external factor like race, culture, religion, country or gender only provides as with our own view of the truth, so what to believe and what not, well these all are just they superficial layers or say sunglasses of different shades,
when you teach or preach someone you would have to be teaching on persons own level , persons can be convict facing capital punishment or just a young student trying to choose between various courses after high school. So these things are just a persons tiny obstacles to one's method to find the truth.
Religion,spiritualism, physical and mental exercises are all just the method to survive they can aide you on the journey but can't take you there.
Having eyes and ears can only provide you to reasons and science behind external events, but the things most of us are looking for an answers are very personal in nature, like money, food, families, love meaning of life.
I myself have tried and understood many things but not fully, why not because of mundane tasks, we all have to do, eating, sleeping, making money, fulfilling social obligations and list goes on, but if I would have got it,
the wording says the truth will set you free , well I am not free till I living in this world basic tasks of breathing provide comfort and food to this body will go on.
I am going to give you tools which were helpful in my journey
Cognitive distortions
Some psychologist gave list of common cognitive distortions
For instance, a person might tell themselves, “I always fail when I try to do something new; I therefore fail at everything I try.” This is an example of “black or white” (or polarized) thinking. The person is only seeing things in absolutes — that if they fail at one thing, they must fail at all things. If they added, “I must be a complete loser and failure” to their thinking, that would also be an example of overgeneralization — taking a failure at one specific task and generalizing it their very self and identity.
Cognitive distortions are at the core of what many cognitive-behavioral and other kinds of therapists try and help a person learn to change in psychotherapy. By learning to correctly identify this kind of “stinkin’ thinkin’,” a person can then answer the negative thinking back, and refute it. By refuting the negative thinking over and over again, it will slowly diminish overtime and be automatically replaced by more rational, balanced thinking.
Cognitive Distortions
Aaron Beck first proposed the theory behind cognitive distortions and David Burns was responsible for popularizing it with common names and examples for the distortions.
1. Filtering.
We take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. For instance, a person may pick out a single, unpleasant detail and dwell on it exclusively so that their vision of reality becomes darkened or distorted.
2. Polarized Thinking (or “Black and White” Thinking).
In polarized thinking, things are either “black-or-white.” We have to be perfect or we’re a failure — there is no middle ground. You place people or situations in “either/or” categories, with no shades of gray or allowing for the complexity of most people and situations. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
3. Overgeneralization.
In this cognitive distortion, we come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. If something bad happens only once, we expect it to happen over and over again. A person may see a single, unpleasant event as part of a never-ending pattern of defeat.
4. Jumping to Conclusions.
Without individuals saying so, we know what they are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, we are able to determine how people are feeling toward us.
For example, a person may conclude that someone is reacting negatively toward them but doesn’t actually bother to find out if they are correct. Another example is a person may anticipate that things will turn out badly, and will feel convinced that their prediction is already an established fact.
5. Catastrophizing.
We expect disaster to strike, no matter what. This is also referred to as “magnifying or minimizing.” We hear about a problem and use what if questions (e.g., “What if tragedy strikes?” “What if it happens to me?”).
For example, a person might exaggerate the importance of insignificant events (such as their mistake, or someone else’s achievement). Or they may inappropriately shrink the magnitude of significant events until they appear tiny (for example, a person’s own desirable qualities or someone else’s imperfections).
With practice, you can learn to answer each of these cognitive distortions.
6. Personalization.
Personalization is a distortion where a person believes that everything others do or say is some kind of direct, personal reaction to the person. We also compare ourselves to others trying to determine who is smarter, better looking, etc.
A person engaging in personalization may also see themselves as the cause of some unhealthy external event that they were not responsible for. For example, “We were late to the dinner party and caused the hostess to overcook the meal. If I had only pushed my husband to leave on time, this wouldn’t have happened.”
7. Control Fallacies.
If we feel externally controlled, we see ourselves as helpless a victim of fate. For example, “I can’t help it if the quality of the work is poor, my boss demanded I work overtime on it.” The fallacy of internal control has us assuming responsibility for the pain and happiness of everyone around us. For example, “Why aren’t you happy? Is it because of something I did?”
8. Fallacy of Fairness.
We feel resentful because we think we know what is fair, but other people won’t agree with us. As our parents tell us when we’re growing up and something doesn’t go our way, “Life isn’t always fair.” People who go through life applying a measuring ruler against every situation judging its “fairness” will often feel badly and negative because of it. Because life isn’t “fair” — things will not always work out in your favor, even when you think they should.
9. Blaming.
We hold other people responsible for our pain, or take the other track and blame ourselves for every problem. For example, “Stop making me feel bad about myself!” Nobody can “make” us feel any particular way — only we have control over our own emotions and emotional reactions.
10. Shoulds.
We have a list of ironclad rules about how others and we should behave. People who break the rules make us angry, and we feel guilty when we violate these rules. A person may often believe they are trying to motivate themselves with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if they have to be punished before they can do anything.
For example, “I really should exercise. I shouldn’t be so lazy.” Musts and oughts are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When a person directs should statements toward others, they often feel anger, frustration and resentment.
11. Emotional Reasoning.
We believe that what we feel must be true automatically. If we feel stupid and boring, then we must be stupid and boring. You assume that your unhealthy emotions reflect he way things really are — “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”
12. Fallacy of Change.
We expect that other people will change to suit us if we just pressure or cajole them enough. We need to change people because our hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
13. Global Labeling.
We generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment. These are extreme forms of generalizing, and are also referred to as “labeling” and “mislabeling.” Instead of describing an error in context of a specific situation, a person will attach an unhealthy label to themselves.
For example, they may say, “I’m a loser” in a situation where they failed at a specific task. When someone else’s behavior rubs a person the wrong way, they may attach an unhealthy label to him, such as “He’s a real jerk.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded. For example, instead of saying someone drops her children off at daycare every day, a person who is mislabeling might say that “she abandons her children to strangers.”
14. Always Being Right.
We are continually on trial to prove that our opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and we will go to any length to demonstrate our rightness. For example, “I don’t care how badly arguing with me makes you feel, I’m going to win this argument no matter what because I’m right.” Being right often is more important than the feelings of others around a person who engages in this cognitive distortion, even loved ones.
15. Heaven’s Reward Fallacy.
We expect our sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if someone is keeping score. We feel bitter when the reward doesn't come.
So after this long list I copied from psych central, this use of information is justified in larger public good,
You have gone through this then well congrats that patience is what needed for finding truth ,you will need to bookmark (CTRL + D ) this page to continue reading it because it is too much of information, and your mind which is habitual of easy things is trying to convince you otherwise,
Grasp this more will be coming on what to do next
comments and questions are very welcome
